3 children minimum?

[nuray]

yes i do but i think you joking.

Yea. You probably think this funny. I had crush on a girl once. I think because she acted more like a guy. I asked her if she like me more than a friend and she started laughing and said '' No...''

no it not funny. if you like a girl before you may be not gay. how you know if you never date a girl. nesrin my friend acts a little like a man i guess. she listens to thrash metal and lifts weights. also my sister figen is into martial arts. i will ask them if they want to chat with you ok.

[Barış]

yes i do but i think you joking.

Yea. You probably think this funny. I had crush on a girl once. I think because she acted more like a guy. I asked her if she like me more than a friend and she started laughing and said '' No...''

no it not funny. if you like a girl before you may be not gay. how you know if you never date a girl. nesrin my friend acts a little like a man i guess. she listens to thrash metal and lifts weights. also my sister figen is into martial arts. i will ask them if they want to chat with you ok.

Okey get back on topic!

[Marie K.]

it doesnt matter if ppl are gay or not its only the religion who dont accept this.and which is narrow-minded.
for instance i have some gay guy friends and the most of times they are more kind that the non-gay..guys lol.

[missIndependent]

there are many girls who enjoy of being friend with gay guys.. they are interesting and much more understandable.
baris doesn't new low allow you for adaption?

[raman82]

When did having 3 kids turn into a gay dilemma lol ...in any case , 2 kids is the best , that too 5 years apart , so by the time second one is born ,the first kid is already in kindergarten. Another thing , the time between you get married and have your first kid should be like 2-3 years min IMO , I see a lot of newly wed couples in asian and middle eastern families who pop out their first kid the following year. I think you should have 2-3 years to enjoy with your wife as a couple , because your love/sex life will not be in high priority when the kids come lol, which is natural and reflects the maturing of your marriage.

[missIndependent]

well, i like your opinion about enjoying the first romantic years of marriage before having any kids, 2-3 years is a minimum i guess. after 2-3 years,it still depends on how the relationship is going.. there are several reason to have kids at that time i think, 1.life's getting boring and all the same and too quite, so there is a need of a change! 2. age is a concern, couples are 30+ and in my opinion it's better to have kids before the age of 30. 3. life's all good and exciting and age is not a mater, but couple love kids and wanna have them. In any other cases i think it's better to wait a lil more.
and no, 3 kids is the best lol, as i said in previous pages, 3 will full up the car

[Evin]

3 will full up the car

... and empty your bank account

[Evin]

When did having 3 kids turn into a gay dilemma lol ...in any case , 2 kids is the best , that too 5 years apart , so by the time second one is born ,the first kid is already in kindergarten. Another thing , the time between you get married and have your first kid should be like 2-3 years min IMO , I see a lot of newly wed couples in asian and middle eastern families who pop out their first kid the following year. I think you should have 2-3 years to enjoy with your wife as a couple , because your love/sex life will not be in high priority when the kids come lol, which is natural and reflects the maturing of your marriage.

Wow Raman, you've got it all figured out, I think your ideas are spot on, it's real important to enjoy the first few years of married life, get to know one another, then move on to the children. I had mine shortly after getting married and looking back, I would have done things very different (hindsight is a marvellous thing what!).

The only part I disagree with is the gap of 5 years between, I had both my children close together (2 years) and I'm so very glad I did - I got all the hard work (nappies, no sleep etc), out of the way in a short space of time and they've grown up so very close and supportive of one another as they're similar ages.

[Diri]

Some good points have been made...


One should enjoy ones new married life indeed. It is a time when you probably learn to live side by side with the person for every day of your future life... So it'll be important to bond and improve where necessary...

Having kids too many years apart will probably be unhealthy for the kids - they won't have as close bonds to eachother as they would if they were about the same age...

Having (2 or more) kids a year or two after eachother will end the nappy-time and sleepless nights much earlier than if you have (2 or more) kids many years apart from one to another...

Having 3 kids means you`ll all fit into a standard family car with 5 seats...

Having 3 or more kids will be economically demanding - depending on your job and which country you're based in...
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@ Raman

Yes bira - I'm already engaged - and I would have been much earlier, had it not been for fate... I was ready for marriage at the age of 16... I think your astrological reference is to that of the Cancerian moon - which has a strong desire for creating family and sound/safe surroundings... Right?