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i have bn in relationship with my kurdish bf 7mths all ive gotis nasty comments frm friends ,family now im expecting his baby and things have go alot worse even he has started to have enough he says he'll marry me when he gets his passport but until then he cant??? not sure i havent met his family or many of his friends just a few he doesnt seem to want this child as he is afraid to be sent home pls advise thx xxx

welcome to RBK helen26 »

it is fairly simple , give him a home and make him feel home , he will stay . Nag and complain and he will run like there is no tomorrow .

Dont care what friends family say if you love him. I hope he marry you and you have baby.

helen26 wrote:i have bn in relationship with my kurdish bf 7mths all ive gotis nasty comments frm friends ,family now im expecting his baby and things have go alot worse even he has started to have enough he says he'll marry me when he gets his passport but until then he cant??? not sure i havent met his family or many of his friends just a few he doesnt seem to want this child as he is afraid to be sent home pls advise thx xxx

I'm not against 'mixed race relationships/marriages', as I think we're all human... I suggest ya realy take Kak Talsor's advice and also what matters is what ya think. Don't let them affect your opinion on this.

Welcome to the site. There is nothing wrong in mixed marriages. Hope every thing will come allright for you.

sigh... do u believe ur love can last for a long time? If you trust it.. just do it~

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smallvolume123 wrote:Hello, everyone,i am glad to be join this forum.

You post same thing 4 times.

helen26 wrote:what do people think of mixed race relations

Londoner wrote:Welcome to the site. There is nothing wrong in mixed marriages. Hope every thing will come allright for you.

I think mixed marriage is not a bad thing in abroad(outside!)
but in Kurdistan (inside!)it is different . people don't accept it
as my cousin married with a Persian woman and from then we don't talk to him .
and I don't accept it like other people

kurdimemin_diako wrote:

helen26 wrote:what do people think of mixed race relations

Londoner wrote:Welcome to the site. There is nothing wrong in mixed marriages. Hope every thing will come allright for you.

I think mixed marriage is not a bad thing in abroad(outside!)
but in Kurdistan (inside!)it is different . people don't accept it
as my cousin married with a Persian woman and from then we don't talk to him .
and I don't accept it like other people

I think mixed marriage should not be bad thing anywhere!
Why they not talk to him?

thanx to all who replyed its very much apreciated ! his family just found out through another family member also in uk who went back for holiday i am not so sure of there views as i do not speak much kurdish my family have disowned me all except my mothers family but my fathers vey angry as i was once before married and had adaughter to my exhusband but had to leave duebto bad domestic abuse to my aughter and i which i see as very justified but my father is irish / catholic and is very diffirent to myself! its caused so much trouble which my partner doesnt want to be the cause of which makes him wonder whether hes ruining my life for if he gets sent home im left to deal with this alone including a baby and my daughter also loose another father figure which he has clearly been for some time now gladly on his part which i thought was beautiful he took to her straight away hes scared he go home and never see us again so has been keeping emotional distance lately i see it buthe doesnt realise i can see it i just feell so constricted at the momment i want to enjoy pregnancy but cant as he is afraid to also he is always sad missing his family but feels tied to us i dont want to hold him back but i love him dearly and want my children to have a father!x

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kurdimemin_diako wrote:

helen26 wrote:what do people think of mixed race relations

Londoner wrote:Welcome to the site. There is nothing wrong in mixed marriages. Hope every thing will come allright for you.

I think mixed marriage is not a bad thing in abroad(outside!)
but in Kurdistan (inside!)it is different . people don't accept it
as my cousin married with a Persian woman and from then we don't talk to him .
and I don't accept it like other people

I think mixed marriage should not be bad thing anywhere!
Why they not talk to him?

because we(kurds) are in a war with them . my cousin married with one of them when 2 of his other cousins were killed by iranian government forces .(they where pishmerge)

sorry for these two great brave Kurds who lost their lives - i am sure their sacrifice will not be in vain and soon we will see our nishtiman free and independent.
sometimes i wonder who is worse - turks or persians...

Dear helen,
mixed race relationships are ok, When you have support of your family. But what i dont understand is why he cant marry you?? he wants to wait untill he has a passport?
Hope everthing turns out well for you
i know loads of people who have a non kurdish wife. So if he really cares and loves you. He will marry you since you ar eexpecting his child. If he is not prepared.. then If i were you, i would think twice before i want his child

thanx love really needed ur insight on this disturbing matter unfortunately i am too far gone to consider anything but having this child i do suspect there may be underlying issues here maybe im just paraniod i dont know if things were other way round id be doing all i could to make things work out i just feel it was ok for fun now serious hes running a mile x

I think mixed marriage should not be bad thing anywhere!
Why they not talk to him?

because we(kurds) are in a war with them . my cousin married with one of them when 2 of his other cousins were killed by iranian government forces .(they where pishmerge)

Sorry I asked and about they were killed.