Sex before Marriage

[abdur]

I was with a Kurdish guy for a year and a half and did not have sex with him and he still went back home and got married. I think they can not be trusted.

I would have left you too if you kept me waiting for 1,5 year (unless you think virginity before marriage is important).

[dyaoko]

hi sarah , as a kurdish boy here is my view ,

as a kurd boy I expect my love (wife or GF) respect herself her own rights,
I dont like a woman who sees herslef less than man , and in the same time
I dont like my wife to be a Cheap Girl and sleep with every guy.

being virigin is not important for me at all, her behavior is more important for me . being virigin is a physical , behvaior and hear is another thing !

so , if my gf loves me and I be sure she is not a cheap girl sleeping with every guy, I would love her too.

[ChiChalok]

If you know your Kurdish men " bf" or whatever is gona leave you eventually to go marry a Kurdish girl back home .. they why are u wasting ur time with him? and maybe more like wasting ur body ....

[DARA]

HI SARAH

You was with him for 18 months but did not sleep with him, was he happy with that, were u happy with that. i am baffled.

[sarah]

Of course I would have wanted more but I did not as I was always worried he would go home and get married which he did.

[Diri]

Don't give a Kurdish boy the pleasure of sex, unless he intends to marry you...

Have some self-respect... Don't just give into desire... If you show respect to yourself - then he'll sense that, and respond equally...

[Egid]

What’s sex got to do with self respect?
If you love each other and you want to share the intimacy of love the why not?
Of course then you also sex without love. It is possible to, but it is nothing for me.
So sex before marriage yes pls. Cause you never know when you going to break up if you break up.
Life is a box of chocolate you never know what you goanna get.

[tiktokboom]

I wouldnt mind if my wife was a virgin or not, that way i would be a hypocrit

[mojgan]

Hey i dont mean to say this sarah but Kurds usually do that, go with a coccasion or lets say a white person only for a short period of time but then marry someone back home, i dont kno lets just say Kurds look more for marriage material... not trying to be mean

[Armani-ahmed]

Im a english girl who is married islamically to a kurd have been for 3yrs now & we have a son who is 15months old. Im worried about him going back to Iraq one day but i know that he cant leave his son because he loves him too much, i have made it clear to him that i do not intend to visit iraq for now but may do in the future & he has said he has no problems with that. He says he has no thoughts at all to go back to kurdistan to marry a kurdish girl & he will stay in the Uk.

[Diri]

First of all I'd like to clear up some of the things I've said back then - what I meant about self-respect, is a person who gives in to other's pressure and will over sex... I mean: if you don't want to, then don't - if you do it just to keep a guy or to make him stay with you, then you have no self-respect - and there is no reason why that "relationship" would break any given moment... That's what I meant, birayê Egîd... It's not that I am against people having sex before marriage, I think it's up to each individual to decide, but that he/she musn't do it unless it's their own choice... If they are pressured into it, then it will be like a stain on your integrity... If a person is only with you to get laid, then that person is not worth being with or spending time with at all...

Armani-Ahmed - welcome to Roj Bash Kurdistan!

Realy glad to have you here... And I hope you enjoy your stay!

It's realy astonishing to hear that SO MANY English girls have married/engaged or are with Kurdish boys in serious relationships (at least on the girl's part)...

I don't think you have anything to fear. You have married him islamically, which to a believer is more important than a legal (by law of the country) marriage...

You went to an Imam in England, I suppose? Did you have a wedding celebration/party? And does his family know of your marriage and relationship?

As long as he has a child he would never leave you - in Kurdish culture, loyalty to family is paramount... And you seem to be in very open with eachother - which is the best remedy for every relationship!

Are you gonna get married legally as well?

[sicpit]

I am not a Kurd, but I think the more virginity is treasured the more honor their is, when honor is disturbed or even questioned, the individual(men) feel it their duty to restore their honor and the rest is history...

Having sex before marriage Doesn't make you a whore, a whore is one who excepts $ for sex. Besides if a woman or male chooses to be a whore be it a prostitute or a Porn Star, who am I to say they are wrong. It's their life and their choice, not mine

[Armani-ahmed]

Thankyou for the welcoming. Yes here in England there are quite a few English girls fallin for the kurdish boys which isnt always a good thing because they have no idea most of the time that its not serious.

Yes we were married by two mullahs (not sure if thats spelt correctly) in London. We preferred not to have a party afterwards instead we spent time with close friends & family instead.

Yes his family know about our marriage islamically & know that we have a beautiful baby boy. My husbands mum is very very keen to meet her grandson so we may well be visiting one day but he has a little natter to them on the phone now & again.

We can not at the minute get married legally due to him having no leave to remain we have had many problems with the home office & we have to pay to get a certificate which allows him to marry in this country, so for the time beong we are happy married muslim. We have been together 3yrs & 6months.

[Diri]

Thankyou for the welcoming. Yes here in England there are quite a few English girls fallin for the kurdish boys which isnt always a good thing because they have no idea most of the time that its not serious.

Yes we were married by two mullahs (not sure if thats spelt correctly) in London. We preferred not to have a party afterwards instead we spent time with close friends & family instead.

Yes his family know about our marriage islamically & know that we have a beautiful baby boy. My husbands mum is very very keen to meet her grandson so we may well be visiting one day but he has a little natter to them on the phone now & again.

We can not at the minute get married legally due to him having no leave to remain we have had many problems with the home office & we have to pay to get a certificate which allows him to marry in this country, so for the time beong we are happy married muslim. We have been together 3yrs & 6months.

You are most welcome!

Wow... Bravo! I am truely impressed by your commitment...

And: Yes, you are right about the Kurdish boys not being serious... But then again, it would be wrong to think overwise about English, Indian or even African boys... Boys are boys no matter where they're from... And they don't realy mature as soon as the girls do... So till that happens, they're gonna want to have their fun and enjoyment...

I'm engaged - and I'm only 22... But then again, I'm not your typical 22 year old youg man...

Yes your mother in-law should have the pleasure of meeting and playing with her grandson...

Ps. yes "Mullah" is the correct spelling for the word... But were they Kurdish or Arab or Somali or what?

[Armani-ahmed]

Thankyou for the reply.

Iam 110% comitted to my husband & i always will be. But i do sometimes have doubts wether he will return to live in kurdistan one day. Thats my worst fear because im sure that i couldnt live over there being so far away from my family.

Yes you are correct about not only is it kurdish boys that play the english girls, nobodys perfect & there is good & bad people feom every country.

Congratulations on being engaged are you with a kurdish girl? Have you set a date to marry?

The mullahs were kurdish who married us.

Hope for a reply soon.